Psychology 285 Week 9 Final Essay

Every bingle has asked at point in their lives who am I? Everyone will go through not bad(p) lengths to figure out exactly that answer. Because of that no topic in psychology today is more heavily researched than self (Myers, D.G., 2012). These feelings come about for a bend of reasons. We develop a number of feelings for reasons that argon related to group dynamics, genetics perhaps, and social influence. There are so many influences on the relationships that we develop.Self-conceptsThere are so many awesome qualities about me Im honest, very giving, independent and opinionated however be opinionated can be a blessing and a curse. Growing up I remember being in trouble so much because of my mouth. I was the type of child that indispens up to(p) to get my point across and I was going to get out whatever it was that I needed to say My mother told me several times belatedly that she admires my courage when it comes to saying whats on my mind she hated it when I was growing up pl ainly she respects it now because she holds back a multitude afraid to speak up. Knowing that I am super opinionated I have to be careful sometimes about the way that I say things to other pile. This is because what I say may be without malicious intent however it could come off that way if its not guardedly expressed I am so opinionated that I will solicit my opinion to anyone with being asked to solicit it. Especially when it comes to my nigglinger sister she thinks that Im being hard on her but I tell her all the time the day I have nothing to say be worried, I talk because I care This brings me to being such a giving individual I would give my heart if I was able to elapse to live. I have given my last to so many and I expect absolutely nothing in return. I have learned that in that respect is no greater lesson in life than the one of being able to give. I am the type of person who will go through my son, daughter, finance and my own closets just to see what they are no longer wearing to give it away to someone else who can actually use it. I indispensability to set great examples to my children I want them to pay if forward too but I want them to also hit the sack the difference between being a giving person and being an idiot This brings me to my independence in life. I am such a strong minded person, very train guide oned so I know what I want and I know exactly what Ineed to do to get to where I need to be, by myself My mother loves the independence in me but she hates the reasoning behind wherefore Im so independent. That reason would be because I adoptt want to end up like her shes so dependent on my stepfather that she has absolutely nothing on her own Her startle car came from him the first time she moved into her own place was because of him, the new house the clothes on her back, the shoes on her feet, down to the food she eats. I slangt want that for myself in any way. My fear is that if I allow someone to do anything in any form for me that they will throw it in my reckon later. While my mother admires this quality about me my fianc hates it so much. Hes constantly fighting me not because he has nothing else to do but because he wants to do more. However along with the fear of having what was done thrown in my face another fear is to allow myself to comply with someone else doing something for me and they arent able to later than I feel like I set myself up for failure. This aspect of my life is revolved around issues of trust in my opinion. I know that I have trust issues I am eternally afraid of being hurt in some way whether it be because I was allow down or because my heart was broken. My world is great and everything is exactly the way it should be until someone else tries to help. This is what one would call self-serving bias. Self-serving bias plays an extremely major part of mine and anyone elses life we would all love to believe were a super hero all of the time, but when something goes prosti tute have you ever you ever seen the super hero take the blame? Never that is the sidekicks job The concept of self-serving bias has undefendable my eyes up to taking more responsibility for my own actions and stop using the actions of others to feel better about a situation that has gone wrong. This is why now I feel that I have an internal locus of control I believe that I am what influence the ripple topic of the events of my life. My actions have reaction weather I like the reactions or not they are still because of me and no one elseAttitudes and feelingsConfirmation bias influences the perception of yourself and the people around me because we all want what we believe to be true Take this for example my mother doesnt very much care for my fianc she doesnt unfeignedly have a reason, because he does everything that he is supposed to do and more sure we have an argument here and there but to her its abusive. So she saysthing like this See I told you he doesnt care about anyon e but himself, look at how he speaks to you he doesnt care. I explain to her that its unfair to say that about him especially when things were said in the heat of the moment. Confirmation bias can destroy you because you are always looking for the next thing to support your beliefs. My sister thought that her husband was cheating with my cousin, (this was not true) so everything that my brother in law and cousin did together it was inappropriate and because they were sleeping together. I tried so many times to tell her that they werent sleeping with one another but she had it in her head that they were so much that she actually pushed them together (self-fulfilling prophecy). She pushed and pushed so much that the untrue theory became true. I was hurt for her when this happened because these beliefs ended up generating their own confirmation. Behaviors influence carriage in so many ways, each day of my life behaviors influence my attitude. My step brother for example to me his beh avior is very perverted is says things about my little sisters that he should not referencing the rear ends and other parts of their bodies as well as mine extremely inappropriate this behavior influences my attitude towards him because I dont trust him as a result, I dont want him around any of our sisters, or my infant daughter, I dont even trust him around my son My attitude toward him is extremely negative and I hate when hes around.Another way that behavior touch attitude is through imitating your parents because the attitudes and beliefs of your parents have a strong impact on your life later. The topic of exhibiting the behavior of my parents brings me to gender roles. Our gender roles are defined by our own conceptions of being a male or female. Social influenceIn certain situations I am willing to conform to a degree, but I am not willing to conform completely for an entire group to make it easier on the group. I enjoy being an individual I never want to blend in with the crowd I always want to stand out. I know this because at work there are so many groups of people who only want to hang out with that group of people they are all so caught up with whos doing what and why that they completely lose focus of why we are even at work in the first place. I on the other handdont feel that I have the time for that its childish so I am all about my work and nothing else When our locating Master comes around they will all scrabble to go back to work or act as if they are working so that they wont get into trouble A person of authority influences obedience because the authority figure has the power to discipline.The foot in the door technique is one that is used in my profession a lot when the new comers come on to the job a co-worker will began to ask for small favors and those small favors turn into large favors. I have used this technique in new relationships to see just how far I can get him to go for me. I will change in the presence of others depending on who the person is if its an elder I wont swear, if its a jr. group of my peers I will relax more but it really depends on the group. When working with groups there are always slackers in the group they do the least expecting the same amounts of credit. This is something that I have struggled with in school and in work because its completely unfair to the group. This is called being senseless and being lazy is completely unattractive.Factors that attract me to someone are whether or not they are intellectually stimulating to me, smart, fun loving, easy going, handsome, tall, and has a great sense of humor. Thats not to say that whats attractive to me is attractive to the next person. Just because they are attractive doesnt mean that everything is going to be great there may be some conflict and in resolving conflict you must talk it out, speaking on your concerns and try using the I coiffe saying how you feel as oppose to the blame game because no one will be receptive to that